Make the invisible work visible.

The mental load and fair division — framed as team-against-the-problem, not accusation. Ends on acknowledgment instead of a fight. Addresses the #1 conflict source for new parents.

The Invisible Load

What's something you're always keeping track of in your head that I probably never see?

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Example questions

Three questions from the deck — to try tonight.

Every card has a second layer: on the back, the app has a go-deeper question that takes it further.

Question i.

What's something you're always keeping track of in your head that I probably never see?

Go deeper

How much space does it take up on a normal day?

Question ii.

When do you feel most like the "default parent" — the one everything lands on?

Go deeper

What would it feel like to not be, even for a day?

Question iii.

Is there a task you do that you assume I don't even know needs doing?

Go deeper

Want to actually name it so it’s shared, not just done?

Question iv. – xxv.

You get the remaining 22 questions as a card in the app each evening — one per night, answered privately.

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What it’s about

Why this deck exists

Research is blunt about this: the mental load is the top conflict source for new parents, and the pain isn’t only the tasks — it’s carrying them unseen and unacknowledged. This deck makes the invisible visible without turning it into a fight. Questions name the load; follow-ups open the „why“ and the fix; context keeps both partners on the same side of the table.

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